{"id":3236,"date":"2025-12-10T15:06:54","date_gmt":"2025-12-10T15:06:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marmarahabermerkezi.com\/?p=3236"},"modified":"2025-12-18T17:50:21","modified_gmt":"2025-12-18T17:50:21","slug":"kimin-hayatini-yasiyoruz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marmarahabermerkezi.com\/index.php\/2025\/12\/10\/kimin-hayatini-yasiyoruz\/","title":{"rendered":"K\u0130M\u0130N HAYATINI YA\u015eIYORUZ?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-3237 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/marmarahabermerkezi.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/backgrounsetc-starfield-4o.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"800\" height=\"449\" srcset=\"https:\/\/marmarahabermerkezi.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/backgrounsetc-starfield-4o.jpg 800w, https:\/\/marmarahabermerkezi.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/backgrounsetc-starfield-4o-300x168.jpg 300w, https:\/\/marmarahabermerkezi.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/backgrounsetc-starfield-4o-768x431.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Bir ailede, anne ve babadan ne\u015fet \u00e7ekirdek bir ya\u015fam\u0131n i\u00e7ine do\u011far\u0131z. Ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta se\u00e7ti\u011fimiz hi\u00e7bir \u015fey yoktur. Kendimizi tan\u0131y\u0131p, varl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n fark\u0131na var\u0131ncaya kadar ne oldu\u011funu anlamadan var oluruz. Birisinin o\u011flu-k\u0131z\u0131, amcas\u0131, day\u0131s\u0131, halas\u0131 ya da teyzesi oluruz. T\u00fcrk, \u0130ngiliz, \u0130talyan veya Frans\u0131z oluruz. M\u00fcsl\u00fcman, Yahudi, H\u0131ristiyan ya da putperest oluruz. Asyal\u0131, Afrikal\u0131 veya Avrupal\u0131 oluruz. Hi\u00e7 birisini se\u00e7mez, sadece oluruz. \u0130mkanlar\u0131m\u0131z bize dayat\u0131l\u0131r ve kabul ettirilerek i\u00e7selle\u015ftirmemiz sa\u011flan\u0131r. Bunun i\u00e7in de ellerinden gelen her \u015feyi yaparlar\u2026<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sonra birisi \u00e7\u0131kar ve der ki; <strong>sorgulanmam\u0131\u015f hayat ya\u015fanmaya de\u011fmez!<\/strong> Ee, \u00e7ok \u00f6nemsedi\u011fim hayat\u0131m, ya\u015fanmaya de\u011fmeyecek kadar basit veya s\u0131radan m\u0131? Oysa etraf\u0131mda o kadar \u00e7ok anlam y\u00fckledi\u011fim, kendimce de\u011fer verdi\u011fim \u015feylerim var ki! Bu \u015feyler hayat\u0131m\u0131 dolduruyor ve beni oyal\u0131yorken, b\u00fct\u00fcn zaman\u0131m\u0131 bu \u015feylerin pe\u015finde, k\u00e2h \u00fcz\u00fcl\u00fcp, k\u00e2h sevinerek ve hatta \u00f6lecek kadar korkup heyecanlanarak ge\u00e7iriyorken! Ne yani, \u015fimdi b\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar ya\u015fanmaya de\u011fmeyecek kadar de\u011fersiz mi?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Bu yetmezmi\u015f gibi, \u201c<strong>insan yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 se\u00e7imlerden ibarettir\u201d<\/strong> diyen birisi \u00e7\u0131kar ortaya. Bunu hazmetmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken ekler; <strong>\u201cse\u00e7mediklerin ve ka\u00e7\u0131\u015f\u0131n da bir se\u00e7imdir.\u201d<\/strong> Sustuklar\u0131n, boyun e\u011fip onaylad\u0131\u011f\u0131n, kendi kendini kand\u0131r\u0131p kabul ettiklerin\u2026Deneyimlemeyi g\u00f6ze al\u0131p y\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn yol ve reddetti\u011fin milyonlarca se\u00e7ene\u011fin\u2026Acaba ger\u00e7ekten b\u00f6yle mi?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Tam da bunlar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrken, ba\u015fka bir soru geldi akl\u0131ma. \u0130nsan \u00f6nce kendini yarat\u0131p sonra da o yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n bedelini \u00f6d\u00fcyor ise bug\u00fcn, \u015fu anda kimin hayat\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015f\u0131yorumdur? Kendinin mi yoksa senden \u00f6nce dikilmi\u015f, haz\u0131r bir g\u00f6mle\u011fi mi giydin? Ya da senin i\u00e7in yaz\u0131lm\u0131\u015f bir senaryonun, sana ezberletilmi\u015f repliklerin ba\u015frol\u00fcn\u00fc m\u00fc oynuyorsun? Kimin anlam g\u00f6mle\u011fi i\u00e7erisindesin?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Cevap arayal\u0131m m\u0131?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Simone de Beauvoir, Frans\u0131z yazar ve feminist filozoftur. Ba\u015fyap\u0131t\u0131 say\u0131lan 1949 tarihli <strong>\u201c\u0130kinci Cinsiyet&#8221;<\/strong> isimli kitab\u0131nda &#8220;<strong>Kad\u0131n do\u011fulmaz, kad\u0131n olunur.&#8221;<\/strong> der ve bilinen bu me\u015fhur c\u00fcmlesi, kitab\u0131n\u0131n odak noktas\u0131n\u0131 olu\u015fturur. Feminist yazar, kad\u0131nl\u0131k ile g\u00fczelli\u011fin \u00f6zde\u015fli\u011fi fikrini i\u015fler ve eril egemenli\u011fini ele\u015ftirip k\u0131saca <strong>\u201cG\u00fczel Do\u011fulmaz, G\u00fczel Olunur!<\/strong>\u201d der. Hemen akl\u0131n\u0131za konumuzla ne alakas\u0131 var? diye bir soru tak\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Bu kad\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr, her ne kadar merkeze kad\u0131n\u0131 alsa da asl\u0131nda i\u00e7erik hepimizi kapsamaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">\u015e\u00f6yle ki;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Yaz\u0131n\u0131n giri\u015f k\u0131sm\u0131nda, insano\u011flunun bir ailede, haz\u0131r bir d\u00fczen, mek\u00e2n ve kimlik i\u00e7ine do\u011fdu\u011funu, kendinden \u00f6ncekilerin var etti\u011fi anlam deryas\u0131nda y\u00fczme \u00f6\u011fretildi\u011fini ima etmi\u015ftik. Ancak, Simone de Beauvoir insan\u0131n d\u00fcnyaya haz\u0131r bir kimlikle de\u011fil bir <strong><u>imk\u00e2n<\/u><\/strong> olarak geldi\u011fini iddia eder. Hayat\u0131n bize haz\u0131r roller sundu\u011funu, nas\u0131l konu\u015faca\u011f\u0131m\u0131za, nas\u0131l inanaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131za, neyi isteyip neyi istemeyece\u011fimize bizim d\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131zda karar verildi\u011fini belirtir. Esas sorunun bu olmay\u0131p, \u00e7o\u011fu insan\u0131n bu rolleri sorgulamadan kabul etmesi olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcr. Bu kabul\u00fcn nedenini de \u00f6zg\u00fcr olman\u0131n itaat etmekten \u00e7ok daha a\u011f\u0131r bir sorumluluk getirdi\u011fi ger\u00e7e\u011fine ba\u011flar. Ancak hemen \u015funu ekler. <strong>Unutma!<\/strong> ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n sana bi\u00e7ti\u011fi kimli\u011fi reddetti\u011fin an, giydirilmi\u015f anlam g\u00f6mle\u011fini \u00e7\u0131kart\u0131p, kendi anlam\u0131n\u0131 yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131n an \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn ilk ad\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 atars\u0131n\u2026 Yani kendi hayat\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015far, kendini ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirirsin\u2026<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Ancak, \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn bedeli her zaman a\u011f\u0131r olur. Herkes bu bedeli g\u00f6ze alamaz ve \u00f6\u011frenilmi\u015f \u00e7aresizlik ekseninde rol\u00fcn\u00fc oynamaya devam eder. \u00d6\u011frenilmi\u015f \u00e7aresizlik demi\u015fken bu zinciri k\u0131rman\u0131n tabi ki bir yolu vard\u0131r. Bir zincir en zay\u0131f halkas\u0131 kadar sa\u011flamd\u0131r. Ve bu zay\u0131f halka cesaretinin \u00f6n\u00fcndeki kendi duvar\u0131nd\u0131r. Bu duvar\u0131 y\u0131kmak, bu zinciri k\u0131rmak i\u00e7in de gerekli olan ve sahip olman gereken tek \u015fey cesarettir. Cesaretin C\u2019si olmazsa sana kalacak olan sadece ve sadece <strong>esaret<\/strong>tir.\u00a0 Ve yine hat\u0131rlat\u0131yorum. Gemi limanda g\u00fcvendedir, ancak gemi limanda beklemesi i\u00e7in yap\u0131lmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u2026<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Her ne kadar bedeli a\u011f\u0131r olsa da ger\u00e7ek insan olma yolunda \u00f6zg\u00fcrce, cesaretle y\u00fcr\u00fcyece\u011fimiz yar\u0131nlarda, sorgulanarak ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015f bir hayat\u0131n lezzetinde bulu\u015fmak ve afetsiz g\u00fcnlerde ya\u015fayabilmek dile\u011fiyle\u2026<\/p>\n<p>*<\/p>\n<p>H\u00dcSEY\u0130N KANZA<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Bir ailede, anne ve babadan ne\u015fet \u00e7ekirdek bir ya\u015fam\u0131n i\u00e7ine do\u011far\u0131z. Ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta se\u00e7ti\u011fimiz hi\u00e7bir \u015fey yoktur. Kendimizi tan\u0131y\u0131p, varl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n fark\u0131na var\u0131ncaya kadar ne oldu\u011funu anlamadan var oluruz. Birisinin o\u011flu-k\u0131z\u0131, amcas\u0131, day\u0131s\u0131, halas\u0131 ya da teyzesi oluruz. T\u00fcrk, \u0130ngiliz, \u0130talyan veya Frans\u0131z oluruz. M\u00fcsl\u00fcman, Yahudi, H\u0131ristiyan ya da putperest oluruz. Asyal\u0131, Afrikal\u0131 veya Avrupal\u0131 oluruz. Hi\u00e7 [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":3237,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1,10,8,36],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3236","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-balikesir","category-bursa","category-istanbul","category-yazar"],"views":409,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/marmarahabermerkezi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3236","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/marmarahabermerkezi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/marmarahabermerkezi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marmarahabermerkezi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marmarahabermerkezi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3236"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/marmarahabermerkezi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3236\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3239,"href":"https:\/\/marmarahabermerkezi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3236\/revisions\/3239"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marmarahabermerkezi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3237"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/marmarahabermerkezi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3236"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marmarahabermerkezi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3236"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/marmarahabermerkezi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3236"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}